There are wounds that never show on
the body that are deeper
and more hurtful than any
wound that ever bleeds.
What exactly is trauma?
When you take a moment to think about it, do you ever overreact to an event that is fairly benign. Maybe someone said something that triggered an old memory of a hurtful or abusive relationship, or just a mean comment that stuck with you. It could be that you’re driving by the site of a car accident you witnessed or experienced, or going to the hospital after a loved one has died reminded you of that time in your life. Sometimes you are going about your daily activities but are overlooking details such as forgetting to take things with you, not remembering if you locked the door, driving past the exit on the freeway you need to get off at, or waking up with a sense of panic, or a sick feeling in your stomach. What is even more frustrating is that you don’t know why.
Regardless of the trauma, it generally effects your daily functioning and relationships. This in turn causes more stress, anxiety, or depression. Most often, people aren’t aware that they are nervous, anxious, stressed, or sad because of any trauma.
Trauma comes in different shapes and sizes
People often think that trauma is only physical or sexual abuse. Trauma is so much more than that, and much more common than people think. Many people experience trauma in their lives, and then struggle to function or complete everyday tasks because these traumas have been unresolved. They push them far out of their consciousness so as to not think about the pain they experienced.
There are both “Big T” traumas and “little t” traumas. Big T traumas are things like surviving a major natural disaster, surviving or witnessing a shooting, car accident, domestic violence, rape, severe physical or sexual abuse, returning veterans from war, divorce, or death of a loved one, along with many other significant events. Little T traumas are things like starting back at school, argument with a friend or family member, moving residences, or birth/adoption of a child.
The smaller traumas can get to be more stressful when things start to pile up or you just don’t have the resources to get through those experiences. The bigger traumas begin to get in the way when either something small triggers a response stemming from the Big T trauma, or you have never fully dealt with that trauma.
I like to explain it as a volcano. The bottom, and first layers in the volcano, are your old traumas. As you move through life and experience more traumas (big or little), they begin to pile up, bring more pressure, and then the volcano finally explodes. Most people only deal with the explosion and never dig down to the original layers. What then happens is you feel better for a while but then something else happens and the explosion occurs all over again. That’s the importance of going back to basics, so to speak, and looking at the root cause – those initial traumas which may have happened when you were very young. You may not even be aware that there is anything there. That’s where I come in, and can help you.
How I can help you
I can help you work through these events. Together we will identify what it is that’s getting in the way of your day to day life, relationships, work, school and living. One way I help my clients address trauma is through EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy. I am certified in EMDR therapy and am working on becoming a consultant to other EMDR therapists. EMDR therapy is unlike talk therapy, and there is very little talking that actually takes place. It is a much quicker and more effective way of processing trauma to help you give you a better sense of emotional stability in relation to these events.
Click here to learn more about EMDR therapy. I will help you heal those old wounds and come out stronger on the other end. You can do this. We can do this together.